Home: Where Stories Are Made
Parenting on Purpose - Panel Discussion
Day 1: Begin this week by reading through the Next Steps “Take 5” Questions below. Invite the Holy Spirit to speak truth into you as you consider and answer the questions. Write down your thoughts, responses, and what God is showing you. Use the “Take 5” questions this week as a conversation starter with your family or possibly a close friend.
1. What is my family rhythm? Grab a piece of paper and pencil and map out what happens in a typical week for my family. Observe the rhythm of a typical week. Identify times spent together with my children that could be used to be a spiritual leader.
2. Now that I’ve discovered my family’s rhythm, what is one step I can take to ensure that I am impacting my kids (grandkids) with Biblical truth in order to help them to know and become like Jesus?
3. Who is one person I could talk with to gain wisdom and insight on parenting?
Day 2: Parents and grandparents are called to be spiritual leaders. God desires to use us as instruments to guide our children down a path to know and become like Jesus. Samuel Brengle, former commissioner of the Salvation Army, said spiritual leadership is “attained by confession of sin, and much heart searching and humbling before God; by self-surrender, a courageous sacrifice of every idol, a bold uncomplaining embrace of the cross, and by eternally looking unto Jesus crucified.” Our children learn more about God by our actions than our words. How does your life reflect the love of Jesus? Take a few minutes to consider this. Ask God to show you how your actions are influencing the children in your life.
Day 3: In this series, Home: Where Stories Are Made, we are reminded of the opportunity we have to write a new chapter in our lives and shape others’ stories. Read Proverbs 22:6. As you may have heard Sunday, this passage is a principle, not a promise. Parents seek to shape their children’s future in one of two ways. Some are snowplows clearing a path of happiness for them. They run ahead attempting to fix problems. A second approach some parents take is to prepare and equip children to handle the obstacles on their own. What is your approach? Are you snowplowing all the obstacles off your child’s path, or are you training your child to be ready for the path ahead? What can you do to prepare them? Maybe it’s as simple as a conversation about something that happened in a relationship with a friend. Take time in your weekly rhythm to talk with your child about what they are encountering. Affirm and show your confidence in them. Pray for and with them and the current trials they are facing.
Day 4: A parent’s voice is important when it comes to influencing children. How children respond to mom or dad’s encouragement and direction is an indicator of the effectiveness of their influence. Proverbs 1:8 encourages children to “listen to your father’s instructions and do not forsake your mother’s teachings.” However, the way in which we deliver that instruction is very important. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Take a moment to pray. Let God search your heart and reveal ways you may be exasperating your child. Write down what He reveals. Ask God for the discernment of when to listen and when to speak. Remember James 1:19. Consider the timing of your instruction before giving it.
Day 5: The Bible encourages us to seek counsel. Just read Proverbs! (See Prov. 11:14; 12:15; 13:10) God gives us wisdom through His words in the Bible. He’s also given us a community of Jesus followers who have experienced similar challenges. Name some people in your life who you admire. Consider some of your current parenting (or non-parenting…marriage, friendship, finances, purity) problems. Why not seek out wise people and ask their advice? Also, find some great parenting resources on our website at www.lscckc.org/parent-resources. Still stuck. Contact Kevin Hartman, Family Pastor, firstname.lastname@example.org and he may be able to connect you with someone of wisdom in your area of need.