Week of February 12

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Rekindling Fun and Friendship

Day 1. Begin this week by reading through the Next Steps “Take 5” Questions below. Invite the Holy Spirit to speak truth into you as you consider and answer the questions. Write down your thoughts, responses, and what God is showing you. Use the “Take 5” questions this week as a conversation starter with your family or possibly a close friend.

·       How did you know he/she was the right person to marry? If you are single what are you going to be looking for in a spouse or dear friend?

·       How did you become friends to lovers… Like Song of Songs talks about? If you are single what boundaries do you need to establish so that you maybe able to take this journey from friends to lovers when you become married.

·       How have your interests changed as you have continued to grow in like/love with one another? In all of your close intimate relationships.

 Day 2. To grow in our love for others, we go to the source of love. I John 4:19 says, We love because he first loved us. God loves us. He respects us. God enjoys who we are. Read Zephaniah 3:17, Galatians 4:4-7. Like a father to his infant, God sings over you. That is amazing! The creator of the universe knows you. What other passages remind you of God’s love? Spend some time reflecting on one of these verses. Quiet yourself for a full 5-10 minutes reading and re-reading the verse. Let it sink in. Actually say your name when reciting the verse as if He is speaking to you. If this is difficult, write down several of the struggles or barriers you have in believing this verse.

Day 3. Most of the time when we talk about relationships - marriage, parenting, and friendships in the church- we always start with love. Yet, do you like the people you have chosen to love? To like someone means you enjoy and get pleasure from being with the person. You see value in them as a person and appreciate their qualities. Think of one person who you want to deepen your “like” for. How is this person like Jesus? What qualities do you admire? What are their interests?

Now that you have a great list to inspire you to deepen your relationship with this person, what would keep you from spending time with them? What leads you to distance yourself, shut yourself off or avoid this person? Be honest with yourself. Ask God to show you attitudes and behaviors that prevent you from liking this person. Remember God is the expert in love and wants to show us all how to love.

Day 4. Cyndi Lauper in her 80’s hit got it right when she sang, “girls just want to have fun…O girls just want to have fun!”  The truth is we all want to have fun!  How fun are the relationships in your life? Who makes them fun? Do you feel a twinge of insecurity, like me, because the fun department is not your thing? In the message, Travis gave us examples of not looking to our own interests, but to the interest of others. When was the last time you did something not because you wanted to, but because the person you like was interested in it? Did you think of something? Almost always, stepping into someone else’s fun is uncomfortable, that is a part of why Paul had to instruct us to do it! That is natural. Read James 1:5. Ask God to give you a way to step into someone’s fun today (maybe the person you journaled about yesterday). Think of an activity, topic of conversation, or a passion that would interest them. Maybe you could find a simple way to serve this person.

Day 5. Read Philippians 2: 3-4. Did you do something for someone else yesterday? In Day 3, you focused on deepening your “like” for one person. What is a next step you can take? Pray that God would give you opportunities and for you to step into them. Make a plan and do it. Or maybe you can have a conversation with a spouse, your family, or a friend and come up with a 2017 bucket list. This is a list of realistic activities that you can do before the end of the year. For couples, we have an opportunity to spend a night together with your spouse and other couples. Date Night, Saturday, March 11, 6:30-9pm in the East Auditorium. Wear prom attire from your favorite decade and prepare to have fun! This a FREE night and is for married couples of all ages! Childcare provided for b-K. RSVP for childcare at myls.cc/2lowzL0.